The Comfort of Being Ordinary

There's always a beauty in how it’s okay not to be extraordinary, famous, or ahead — just content, steady, and alive.

Somewhere in this world, we are taught not be ordinary and that is not enough for the society. We always wanted to be an outstanding student among others, wanted to be spoken highly of our character, dressed up chic and neat, groom well with different hairstyles, prefer multi-cuisine and posh restaurants over stalls and lead a leisure lifestyle spending in malls, pubs and parties.

Over this time, we forgot the time when we dressed for comfort, groomed up with simple hairstyles, preferred taste over ambience and lead a peaceful life playing in parks, spending quality time with cousins and friends.

Social media made us believe being extraordinary is cool and the way to lead a disciplined life. Working a 9-5 job, eating fast-food most of the time, spending time in parties, dressed up rich, having a great life. Social media timelines are full of success stories, milestones, and “before–after” journeys, quietly convincing us that if we’re not ahead, we’re falling behind. They call it fit to society only if we follow these.

People of this generation watch fictional dramas, read fictional books and live in the delusional world. In those dramas the male lead will be always clingy, lovey-dovey and speak sweet language every time. It portraits that the male lead is always available for the female lead, is a dominating CEO, or a rich guy who can suffice every need of the female lead and show up every time when the female lead is in danger. This kind of dramas influences people in a wrong like this happens in real life too. This generation believes that is love – being extravagant and consider that love don’t have any fights. But in reality, there’ll be many differences between couple and they should speak up to lead a good life. People should build a parallel line between the delusion life and reality. A person cannot be perfect in all ways and acceptance should be important.

A brewed coffee, long drives, deep talks, cuddle and sleep, movie-nights, simple gifts, buying flowers, cooking together can look like an ordinary love but they all hold a meaning. Being ordinary is never a sin.

There’s also a quiet beauty in stability.  In showing up consistently — not dramatically, but sincerely.
In building a life that feels safe, even if it doesn’t look exciting from the outside. Not every life is meant to be loud. Some are meant to be steady. And that steadiness holds its own kind of strength.

Sometimes, the greatest achievement is choosing a life that feels right to you.