WHEN LOVE FINDS ME-IT SHOULD SOUND LIKE THIS

LOVE-This can be said in many ways and words…Its different in each and every eyes. It only depends on how the particular person sees it. Here we are gonna walk through about it.

Love can never be objectified or it is not meant to be subjective. Subjective thoughts are only the personal opinion of people and belongs to a single person. How can Love be a subjective one, when it’s actually the matter of two people and there should not be any individuality and it should be well addressed between the two. Objectified is actually not a human thing as the name says. A person cannot be treated as an object and cannot be compared to a non-living one. It actually reduces the mere physical presence and portrays objects. So love should not be either subjective or be objectified.

Loving the person the way they wanted to be loved is the purest form of love and happiness. Let’s say for example one person is a materialistic who values gifts, greeting cards, bouquets, and other things like chocolates, dresses and all and the other is an emotional or low-key valued person who likes to spend time, write out long paragraphs, prepares food, handwritten notes or poems and some small miniature gifts. Here in this, both the people are just expressing love the way they know, but the other person might not know the value of the latter’s efforts. So, for this both people should know how the other likes to express and should act accordingly. I don’t offend the efforts and time that’s put on for the presents but it might go in vain. So, I think that it can be 50-50 in expressing- as for the above case it can be bouquets, gifts for sometimes and handwritten notes and others the other time. This way both the people can be happy and they don’t get mistaken and they feel valued.

Love is not only in all the gifts and all the stuffs- It’s also about the way you treat them. Both people deserve the self-respect and the dignity they have earned for the past years. It should not be tarnished in all means. So, basically its like there should not be any situation that might rise to lose the self-respect of the own and they should consciously not let the partner lose their dignity because of the other. That completely depends on the understanding.

Both the partners should set boundaries between personal and profession. The other person should not invade in the profession of the latter that might affect them. Even when both are in the same community/profession, the other should not invade in it. This will surely solve most of the misunderstandings and it actually gains the mutual respect between them.

Love is not only being lovey-dovey all the time but to provide the freedom to make their own choices/decisions and have their own perspective in life. If the latter asks for an opinion or something else, it can be given but not in the way of ordering. Though both are partners it doesn’t mean they will not have any privacy. Since childhood, they might have a lot of friends, acquaintance so they might a common relationship. This must not trigger the jealousy view and they must have trust with the partner and handling each other’s social media account, stalking, questioning the whereabouts in possessiveness must be avoided. I don’t offend being possessive but it should in a healthy manner where it increases the love, but not like inflaming doubts.

Partners should be comfortable in each other’s presence, which also includes the most vulnerable state. Love doesn’t come in proper shapes, so accepting each other’s as they are is the best romantic love. One should not change their own self for the latter and should not try to change the latter. This will improve the relationship even better.

Partners should be supportive to each other whatever the situation it might me. One must be happy and proud for the latter’s success and achievements. There should not be any envy between the partners. One should be the reason for the latter’s smile and happiness. They should be brightest star of the latter’s life who turns the darkness into light. People should not criticize the other with their past or traumas that might hurt them. People should accept the other the way they are.

Love should not involve manipulation and gaslighting. One should not manipulate the latter’s decision according to what they actually want. And gaslighting is really a serious issue among many people. It’s like making people believe they are not worthy or not capable of doing jobs which they were handling so good in the past. This will completely supress the latter’s skills and make them doubt and question their own existence of being worthy or not. This might lead them in wrong ways like depression and stress, so there might be many misunderstandings in the relationship. People actually should not feel insecure when you are with them.  Both of them should feel secured and protected around their loved ones. This increases the standard of sincerity and responsibility.

Love is all about the Art of- Noticing, Caring, Expressing and Understanding. These are actually the important standards in love. Noticing little things of their partner is literally important because only then they can understand their needs, wants, likeable and non-likable. Little actions create great changes. Little things are the ones that matter the most. People can’t say each and every thing about them. Only when we start noticing them, we can understand their moves, get to know about their character. This Art of noticing leads to Caring, Expressing love and mutual understanding. So, its important to take care of their little actions.

There’s a saying like -We actually become the other person with whom you are close when the time passes. It’s actually psychologically true. Staying calm in relationship brings more peace. Love is just the admiration between the two people. When the two people start admiring each other, they stick to each other the bond strengthens.

There’s nothing in this world that is perfect and flawless. Same goes with human. Each person will have some flaws in them- some might think it’s their appearance or attitude or character or even the way of speaking. But Love is accepting people with their flaws and helping them to correct their flaws without hurting them. Though there are many hurdles between them, true love lies in the art of not letting go off each other. It’s not about enduring the pains and toxic behaviour, not letting go comes when you understand each other and can’t lead a life without them.

“EVERYONE HAVE THEIR OWN WAY OF DEALING WITH THINGS.”

“LOVE GIVES WHAT YOU NEED.”

“LOVE ALLOWS EACH ONE OF US TO FIND A BETTER SELF.”

“LOVE IS SOMETHING THAT CANNOT BE LET GO OFF.”