“Why Do They Say It Only on Special Days?”

Most of the year, you just… exist in your circle.

Laughing at memes.
Sharing reels.
Vibing on songs.
Late-night rants, voice notes, and random “I saw this and thought of you” texts.

But no deep talks, no real thank yous, no “you mean the world to me” —
not until a birthday rolls around.
Not until a farewell.
Not until something forces everyone to get a little sentimental.

And Suddenly — You’re the Star of the Day                  

Your phone blows up.
Messages pour in:

• “I don’t say this enough, but you’re my constant.”

• “You’re the strongest person I know.”

• “I can be me with you, and that’s everything.”

You read it. You smile. You feel warm.                                                 
                                                                                      

But deep inside, you wonder —
“Was I really this important all along?”

Because most days…
you feel unseen.
Overlooked.
Like a background character in your own friendships.

Why Wait for a Special Day to Say It?

Why do they write paragraphs on your birthday,
but forget to ask how you’re really doing on an ordinary Tuesday?

Why does it take a cake, or a goodbye, or an Instagram story
for your friends to finally speak their heart?

It’s Beautiful. But Also… It Hurts

Because on your low days, you craved that kind of validation.
Not in the loud way — but in the “please remind me I matter” way.

You wanted someone to say:

• “I’m proud of how far you’ve come.”

• “Thank you for always being there.”

• “I see your effort, even if no one else claps.”

But instead, you just kept giving.
You were the listener. The fixer. The mood-lifter.
The one who remembered everyone’s pain,
but never let yours show.

And The One You Expected It Most From… Said Nothing

The friend who knew your hardest days.
The one you thought would send the longest message.
Didn’t.

No note. No call.
Just silence.

And that silence?
Spoke louder than a 3 a.m. cry.
You kept refreshing your chats.
Waiting.
Hoping.

But they left you wondering if your presence was ever felt the way you felt theirs.Why should I must the one who texts first always?

So Here’s a Soft Reminder:

Don’t save your love for birthdays.
Friendships are not seasonal.
They deserve to be celebrated on boring days,
on lazy Sundays, during overthinking Tuesdays,
in the middle of exam stress or random breakdowns.

Say “I appreciate you” in the middle of a meme war.
Say “Thank you” after a rant call.
Say “I love you, da” when it’s least expected —
because those are the moments that really matter.

And If You're the One Who Felt Unnoticed…

You’re not too much.
You’re not too soft.
You’re not invisible.

Sometimes people don’t express much —
not because they don’t feel it,
but because they think you already know.

But it’s okay to need to hear it.
It’s okay to want reassurance,
especially from the ones you give your whole heart to.

So don’t wait for one big day.
Romanticize your friendships every day.
Be loud with your love. Be real with your gratitude.

Because one kind word…
can carry someone through a storm.

Be a giver too so that the usual giver will feel good for sometime.